Friday, March 28, 2008
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
The first game he played great, but I knew we were in trouble when the other team is dressed like professionals players. I mean all out! Matching cleats, helmets, bat bags and the coaches, three of them all dressed alike and you know they were fantasizing that they were coaching a professional team!
This is t-ball! My little guy and his team had their t-shirts and baseball pants, plus three little girls, with pink helmets. I will tell you right now there is no way the other team would let a girl play on their team. It would have messed up there professional colors! :)
Our team got thumped, but they had such a good time.
Here's to little boys and baseball! Go Bat Busters # 3.
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Here is my opinion as an adult with ADHD.
I think outside the box and there is nothing wrong with that. If I have an idea or dream and it doesn't work, I will survive and move on. I do not like thinking in the box. It makes me edgy, moody and unhappy. I am not talking about living by the rules, everyone should obey the rules, what I am talking about is not being afraid to be yourself and that it is OK to be different.
When I was growing up my family life for lack of a better word was a volatile situation. My sisters and I never knew what each day would bring, it was scary. I was born with ADHD, a lot of common sense and a sense of humor. That is why, I believe I lived to tell the tale. Trust me there were times it was pretty iffy. I was a little girl thinking that this was not a normal way to grow up, that there had to be something better out there so at the ripe old age of 10 I made a plan for how my life would be when I grew up.
- My kids would always know they were loved unconditionally and feel safe.
- My husband would be nice
- He would have green eyes and brown hair
- I would have 2 boys and 2 girls ( I have 3 each)
- I would be there for anyone who needed someone.
- I would make a difference
- I would break the cycle.
Not bad huh? I achieved all those goals and more. Why? Because in my mind it wasn't an option. ADHD may have it's negatives, but it also has it's positives. So if you have a child, teach a child or know of a child with ADHD give them a high five, a hug, encourage them, love them the way they are, focus on the positive not the negative, and tap into their gifts (we all have at least one!)
I met a mom whose grown son has made some mistakes, big ones and he is trying to straighten his life out. But how can you move on and forgive yourself when you own mother can't seem to forgive you? He is in his 20's and I think he has ADHD. I believe the mistakes he has made were not intentional, he didn't set out to hurt anyone, as my very good friend says they were "errors of the heart." He is alone and trying so hard to get back on track. I know his mom is a Christian and If she reads my blog I would ask her this, Why can't you let go and forgive this precious child? Jesus died for you and forgave you and as a believer He fully expects you to do the same thing. My boys have pulled some doozies! But never, ever did they doubt our love or them. That doesn't mean we condone what they did and there were not consequences to deal with, but they know without a doubt our love for them has no boundaries. My husband and I treat our children like our Heavenly Father treats us, with a loving, forgiving heart but we also let them fall down sometimes so hopefully they would learn a lesson. Sometimes it took several falls! I pray that this young man's mom will understand this and open up her heart. You only have one life to live and it would be shame to live it in anger and unforgiveness.
As I look back I truly believe my parents had their own issues to deal with. Back then you didn't talk about it, there were no Dr. Phil's or Oprah's on T.V., no self help books. You just woke up and did your best. My mom and dad died a long time ago. No matter what happened, they were my mom and dad and I loved them with all my heart. I use to only think about the bad times, but as I grow older I remember the bad time's less and the good times more. That is what forgiveness and grace are. It let's you see the good and forget the bad.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
No pain can hide the Savior from you.
No disappointment can derail your journey to the Father.
It's a matter of will~ that continual leap of faith you make when your spirit is bruised.
By Max Lucado
I love this quote. It reminds me that nothing can take me away from my Heavenly Father. That tough times can and should make you stronger.
I would like to congratulate my son who knew what he wanted, persevered and made it happen. He will humbly tell you he achieved this goal because he knew God was always with him.
PFC. Bayer finished his Specialty training today!
Ooh Ra! Well done Marine.
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
If you are not aware of our foundation and what we do, let me explain. We are a non-profit that offers grants to families who have been called to adopt. We believe that finances should not be a reason for a child not to come home to their forever family. Another goal, hopefully by the summer is to start humanitarian aid to children who can not be adopted. It goes without saying that this will take some money and lots of it. So that is why I need a little help from my friends. We need to spread the word. I believe there are a lot of wonderful and generous people out there who would love to help and would if they knew about us. So please help us get the word out. Who knows, maybe some of you maybe thinking you would love to help but how? Have a fundraiser! Get your kids and community involved. You will be a blessing and you will be blessed! (my husbands favorite saying)
We are working on our website and blog so that should be up soon. In the meantime you can contact us at: email@example.com for more information.
We CAN make a difference!
Monday, March 10, 2008
I have to share a funny thing Kennedy said to me yesterday. I was at the store and Jordan called me and said Kennedy was having a fit, which is very unusual. She said she was screaming and crying, kicking and hitting, that is way out of character. So I left the store to go home and take care of the situation. I called Kennedy downstairs and asked her if she did all the above. She shook her head no. I said “Kennedy?” and with a very serious face she said “yes mommy, but I smiled!” Good grief. How am I suppose to keep a straight face and deal with the situation? I made her apologize to Jordan, that was about all I could get out.
Friday, March 7, 2008
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
And I don't know the reason why You brought me here
But just because You love me the way that You do
I'm gonna walk through the valley if You want me to
Cause I'm not who I was When I took my first step
And I'm clinging to the promise You're not through with me yet
so if all of these trials bring me closer to you
Then I will walk through the fire If You want me to
It may not be the way I would have chosen
When you lead me through a world that's not my home
But You never said it would be easy
You only said I'd never go alone
So when the whole world turns against me
And I'm all by myself And I can't hear You
answer my cries for help
I'll remember the suffering that Your love put You through
And I will walk through the darkness If You want me to
Cuz when I cross over Jordan Gonna sing, gonna shout
,Gonna look into Your eyes and see You never let me down
So take me on the pathway that leads me home to You
And I will walk though the valley If You want me to
Yes, I will walk through the valleyIf You want me to
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
I will persevere, I always do. After all I have God on my side!
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May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace...that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romasn 15:13
Sunday, March 2, 2008
I think one of the most important gifts you can give your child or anyone for that matter besides teaching them about God and His word is to know that they are valued and that they are loved, unconditionally. I am not saying you agree or condone everything they say or do. Trust me my sons have put us through the ringer at times, but they know without a doubt no matter what, our love is unconditional. In other words you treat them exactly like God treats us.
Tonight my thoughts are with PFC. Bayer, Dustin, our youngest son. On March 18th he will be stationed in 29 Desert Palms, before he is deployed at some point. I have been asked how can you let him go? The answer is my son knew without a doubt that God had called him to serve his country. He loves what he is doing and that makes letting go easier. God spoke to my heart and He promised me that He would take care of him. That is how I let go of my three sons. I gave them back to God. They are His sons. And when it is time to let my daughters go I will do the same thing. God gives them to you, you do your very best raising them, loving them and then when you have to let go, you give them back to God.
Tonight I have to let go of some demons that have been eating at my soul. Yes, I have demons. Sometimes we are so busy praying for others and taking care of their needs we forget to ask God for a little help for ourselves. These demons have wrecked havoc on me not only spiritually but emotionally. Now it is time to let God take over. I am letting go.